When you throw a rock into a pond the ripples go way out from the center of impact. When you throw a boulder in it can cause waves on the shore. I know that people around me get touched by those ripples. I understand that DT’s actions, and my actions since have effected others in our circle of life. I am not unaware of this.
Today I was frustrated by my mother-in-law (MIL). I posted a facebook post about how I have lost 49.8 lbs. (Feel free to tell me how awesome I am doing, I don’t mind a bit!) In the comments I had a friend who doesn’t live near me ask me how I did it. I responded with:
“Insert friends name here”, in all honesty I don’t recommend my way to anyone! It started with horrible discoveries in my marriage, rolled into my husband moving out a while ago… I was so stressed and losing weight from all of that and I decided to capitalize on it. I cut out sugar almost entirely and caffeine completely. And the pounds just keep falling off. I had, and still do, plenty to lose, but dang does it feel good to watch the number go down every time I step on the scale!
Apparently this post was quite offensive to my MIL. I received a private message from her shortly after stating this:
I think it’s great you’re losing weight for your health. I was disappointed to see you writing openly on FB about the negativity of your marriage. Just keep in mind Jesus’ Word:John 8:6-8
English Standard Version (ESV)
6 This they said to test him, that they might have some charge to bring against him. Jesus bent down and wrote with his finger on the ground. 7 And as they continued to ask him, he stood up and said to them, “Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her.” 8 And once more he bent down and wrote on the ground.
Not only was I criticized, but she bible slapped me. It made me MAD! I haven’t said ANYTHING on my FB about what is going on, other than stating a couple times that the kids were going to their dad’s. The first time I say anything I am corrected by her. News flash, if you had raised your son to keep his dick in his pants* you wouldn’t have to worry about what may or may not be said on MY facebook page. His actions are not my shame to bear!
How is it that she gets touched by a ripple from a rock that DT threw, and somehow it is on me? I will never understand his family.
*edited to add: I do not believe his actions are to be blamed on his parents, but it would have felt really good to say that to her!